(Forgetting names. . . when they remember yours.)
I’ve always been good at remembering names. I don’t really have to try to do it, the name just sticks to me after they mention it the first time. Unfortunately, this always makes the other person feel awkward and I finally understand why!
The Barista at Starbucks remembered me from a social gathering somewhere. I didn’t remember her, her name, or even the place where I met her, yet she knew my name. Uh oh, I’m forgetting names. Instead of pretending that I already who she was and saying “Oh! Hey. . how’ve you been?” I was like “Oh, sorry I don’t remember you.” That’s when I realized that people avoid saying that at all cost, and that’s why they feel so awkward. Well, yeah . . . it is awkward.
How many of you have actually pretended to remember someone and acted like you’re never forgetting names?
“Hey, man. How are you?”
“What’s up dude! Long time.”
You avoid any type of conversation that would include his or her name, and just wait for the name to just end up being mentioned by someone else. Or wait to see if you can somehow spot the name on the person’s notebook. Or see if you steal their wallet and then check their I.D. (not advised). Oh, here’s a good one:
Me: Hey, so yeah man.. how do you spell your name again?
“Man”: Uh, Andrew?
Me: Yeah, but you know . . how do you spell it? (awkward) Since there are so many different (awkward) spellings for a single name nowadays.
Andrew: Oh, right! A-N-D-R-E-W ha, ha!
Me: Cool, so it’s uh, normal. Cool.
PHEEW! Saved! ..sort of.